Check the story you keep telling yourself!

I’ve discovered that in life, the way you perceive what happens to you is directly proportional to how emotionally healthy you’ll become. How do you interpret the way people behave toward you and around you? What story is going on in your mind? I’m presently learning that if a person has not fully healed from a dysfunction e.g. childhood dysfunction or even traumatic experiences in life, a person can have a skewed perception of things in life. 

 Past experience has shaped our understanding of the world and our patterns of thought and behaviour. Experience has taught us to see how to perceive certain situations, what to expect from others or ourselves, and how to behave in different situations. For example, if most of our classroom experiences have been humiliating or unpleasant, we may enter a new classroom ready to fight and defend ourselves, or to be afraid.

Culture inclines us to view some behaviours as positive and others as negative. 

So it is extremely important to check the condition of our heart. I am so on this journey myself and I’m discovering a lot of things. 

Why are you so pessimistic? Why do you think that everyone that is in disagreement with you is your enemy? Why do you think everyone is against you? When you’re confronted with the truth, why do you deny it? It’s time to pause and think. 

Let me share something with you. I realise that I’ve become so careful and a little withdrawn when it comes to making friends and being sociable. You might say it is a good thing because good friends are hard to come by. As much as this is true, I realised that I’ve become like this because my mum was always warning me about friends and she was always paranoid. This has made me to not have many friends because somewhere in my mind, I’ll be saying to myself that ‘hmmm, be careful o cos you don’t know who is who’. This story I keep telling myself needs to be challenged because to some extent, it is true but God did not create us to be alone. We need friends in our circle. We need to socialise and help and learn from one another. We need good friends in every level of our lives in order for us to develop socially. So, this is just an example of the message I’m trying to challenge you my lovely reader to get. Stop and check the story you keep telling yourself. When you get to the root of it, look at the good and bad side of the story and make a balanced conclusion that will help you live a balanced life. 

Please leave a comment if this blessed you in any way or you have a question. 

Thank you for reading so far and as always, I love you!